Saturday, April 19, 2008

In The Waiting (Part 2)

Finally getting another chance to write more. Betcha didn't know that In the Waiting meant you would have to wait a really long time for me to finish my story. So sorry-having three kids will do that to you.

First I want to share some Scripture verses that have been especially meaningful to me during this time through which we have been going.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; lean not on your own understanding. In ALL your ways acknowledge Him; and He will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3.5-6
Be still and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.
Psalm 46.10
Do not be anxious about ANYTHING, but in EVERYTHING, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4.6-7
When I was in college I was part of a traveling choir. We met weekly for a Bible Study and at one point we were studying the fruits of the Spirit. The Bible Study leader, in her wisdom, asked me to lead the study on "peace". She must have known me pretty well because she probably understood that I needed to be studying that topic more than anyone. I am not a peaceful person. I am prone to worry and anxiety. I have lived most of my life trying to please other people and often trying to please myself. So, needless to say, when I found out my husband had lost his job my immediate thoughts were not ones of tranquility and rest and peace. Well, to be honest, I WAS FREAKING OUT!!!!!. I was scared out of my mind. I really don't know why. God has never failed me before. That is one tough lesson to learn. Especially for someone who has lived her entire life totally focused on herself. I shared in my previous post that my first response (aside from the crying) was to call my friend Melissa. Melissa is a great friend whom I dearly love. BUT, she is not God. It took me a long time to learn that God wanted me to cry out to Him.
Rick received one month's severance and we used that month to send out resumes. That very night he lost his job, I stayed up into the wee hours working on his resume, trying to make it perfect. But, the phone never rang. I could not understand it. Here was a man with tons of experience, a college degree, and one heck of a resume (I'll wait for your applause-what a great wife I am). I spent hour after hour on the computer looking for a job. All the while my husband was right in front of me. Finally, he got a job. He started working there about 6 weeks after he lost his previous job and it was about two months until he got paid. Who knew we could live on what he got paid for two months instead of one? It was pretty much the worst job available for him. He was making less than half what he had made before, he was working long hours again, and answering to a boss who was several years younger than him. Rick had forgotten more about the business than his boss ever knew. It was such a humbling thing. That's how he chose to look at it. I, on the other hand, chose to gripe and complain about how awful things were.
In the Waiting...
I became even more desperate. People gave us money and gift cards, and instead of being thankful, I was totally embarrassed. Instead of recognizing this as God's way of fulfilling His promise to always provide for our needs, I was angry with Him for allowing us to go through such a circumstance. Are you tired of my whining yet? I bet God was. In fact I know He was because we sent out over 300 resumes and received no other phone calls. Week after week I sent resumes to the "perfect" job, just knowing that we were going to get that phone call. But all we got was silence. I couldn't understand it. I was desperate.
Desperate for financial comfort. Our needs were being met so I wasn't desperate for food and clothing and shelter. I was desperate for the comfort of knowing I could go out and shop whenever I wanted. I was desperate for status-the status of saying "my husband works here". I was desperate for more. More than what I had, for what I thought I deserved. I was entitled, after all. Look how hard I worked. Desperate for recognition and the ability to "keep up with the Jones'" Where was my Lexus???
Yeah, you could say I was desperate for the wrong things.
Well, I finally got so desperate for the wrong things that I decided to talk to God (tada! what a novel idea!). Now that was one hard conversation, and I wasn't the one doing the talking. I felt like God was saying to me, "FINALLY!!! I have been here the whole time. Where have you been?" You see, the whole time I was whining to God and asking Him where He was. He was right there telling me to WAIT. Well, I don't like to wait. Just ask my kids. But yet there it was, WAIT. God should we sell our house? WAIT. God, should we move away? WAIT. God should I go back to work? WAIT. The really tough one, when we finally did get that call-God, should we move to Florida? WAIT. But I don't wanna (can you hear it, WAH WAH WAH)! WAIT!
"Be still and know that I am God." Many people know that part of the verse, but not the second half. "I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth." Wow! That is worth waiting for. Well, can you guess how long it took for me to learn to WAIT? Wait is basically the same thing as saying no right? I mean, God sure wasn't doing things the way I wanted them done (thank you Lord). One year. One year, my family suffered because of my stubbornness. One year, my husband had a wife who was dissatisfied with his job (by the way, for those of you who don't know, in man speak, that means I am dissatisfied with you). One year, I wallowed in self-pity and desperation. Oh God, how stupid I was! Please forgive me Lord.
But I am here, we are here, to tell you that God is exalted. He is STILL on the throne. He STILL reigns. He did a new work in my heart and in our lives. Oh it hurt. And I can honestly say I never want to have to go through it again. He broke me and humbled me and I am still broken and humbled. And you know what? That means I am right where He wants me. I hope I never move from there. Almost a year to the day after Rick lost his job the phone started ringing again. And it rang and rang and rang. Within the span of a week he had multiple phone interviews, multiple companies calling to set up personal interviews and several job offers.
Well, we're still here. Having waited. We still have our house. My kids still have their mom. All the horrendous things I was sure were going to happen have not happened. Rick has a great job with great benefits which allow him to be home more often. He still works two jobs and weekends and makes less than he once did. And yes we would prefer it otherwise. But we are waiting. And we are thanking God every day for how He provides. He is exalted among the nations and He is exalted in our home. Right now we have less than $10 in our bank account. But tonight for dinner we had salmon and rice and baked potatoes. And plenty left over. We are certainly not desperate to have our needs met. No, instead, we are desperate for Him. We are desperate for His presence in our home and in our relationships. We are desperate to be used by Him. And in the meantime, we are content to be desperate and we are content to wait. There is no place else we would rather be.
Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.
Psalms 27.14


Anonymous said...

You preach it, sister! This was great to read and I'm encouraged to hear how God is working in your heart and life. Love you!

Becca J.

Anonymous said...

ssypyseHey, Kids I knew you would be blessed by God for waiting, I was there in prayer during that difficult time. I love you all and miss you. I know God is there teaching all of us a lesson, we do just need to "WAIT" on him and his plan. Love, Beth B.

Hadassah said...

Praise God from whom all blessings flow!

God uses different circumstances in each of our lives, for me it was a child with medical problems. (Non-permanent problems, she is perfectly healthy today.) But His desire is the same-that we all run to Him and depend totally on Him. That we let go of the things we think we HAVE to have, and instead seek to fill ourselves so full of Him that the rest is just icing on the cake.

Psalm 103:5

"Who satisfies your desires with good things, so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's"

Gallo Pinto2 said...

I love your honesty it is refreshing. I too have trouble with waiting...and while I have been searching for a teaching job for the fall I have been very anxious as you obviously understand. but recently a friend found out that not only does her school need a teacher but so does another high school in her district. Such an answer to prayer...

another good verse on waiting: Isaiah 40:31...

Denise :)

Andy Lauer said...

Thanks, Lisa, for sharing. For what it's worth, I think you guys handled the situation as good as anyone could. Peace.

HIS Daughter said...


I'm so glad that my blog post encouraged you! I have asked My Father to let HIM be glorified in everything, even when I can't get my words out just right!

I read your post about your year of struggle.

I know it must have been very scary and I can sympathize with you. Our Father handled it in HIS way and I'm still learning at almost 49, "HE was too late to heal Lazarus, but exactly on time to raise him from the dead for the greater glory."

Hear my heart when I tell you that there is NOTHING you can do more important than to love your husband and your children. Teach your babies all about GOD and let them see you living it out. Even the mistakes.

I know GOD will work things out in HIS own time and way, but I so messed up in their adolescence. Even though they had "happy" childhood memories - they were not taught about GOD and the reality of walking with HIM.

One more thing - The total truth when I tell you that when I was in the lowest pit ever and the Father finally got my attention so I could be delivered - I had everything financially I had ever wanted or dreamed of.

I was MISERABLE!! HE gave me what I thought I had to have to cure me once and for all of the need for those desires. I may give that testimony on my blog...I just thought it might help someone else.

Blessings and prayers, Lisa. Don't let anyone make you feel anyway accept special. Those children will be better for your obedience. My nephews who were homeschooled by a godly mother, they are wonderful young men! Both graduated from great University's and are sucessful, AND have a love for the LORD that the college never took away.

Love and prayers in HIM,

Leanne said...

Hi Lisa,
I would absolutely LOVE to come to your homeschooling group. It would be an answer to prayer. I have been looking for consistent female fellowship! Its hard at times with the three little monkeys!
Feel free to email me at:
or call me at 589-7934
Thank you, so much!!